Reconnect, Rebuild, and Restore is how I help individuals and couples to look closely at the issues that have emerged within the relationship so that growth and healing can begin.
One of the major complaints I hear couples say is, "Me and my partner are having communication problems." "We are not getting along." "We just don't know how to talk to each other." This may be true but it goes a little deeper than just learning how to use "I" statements. Communication is not just what you say but how you say it, the way you listen and the way you choose to respond to your partner. For many couples who are experiencing gridlock and stonewalling within their relationships, it is usually due to not hearing and not understanding the emotions driving what the person is saying and doing. When there is a lack of deep emotional connection, things feel off in the relationship and it feels as if you and your partner are not on the same page. In my experience as a therapist, cultivating deep emotional connection along with teaching new skills to couples about how to respond and to attend effectively to their partner's needs increased greater satisfaction and fulfillment within the relationship.
For individuals who are exiting out of a relationship where they felt betrayed, it is important to recalibrate and to heal from any emotional or mental injuries. If healing doesn't occur, you can carry the energies connected to the pain of betrayal into your new relationships. Feeling betrayed by a friend, partner, or family member is one of the most painful emotional wound a person can experience within a relationship. Betrayal occurs when someone whom you trusted does the following acts toward you: lie, abuse, cheat, steal, manipulate, abandon, and other destructive behaviors. If you have experiences betrayal or felt exploited in a relationship, it is important to heal that hurt by reconnecting with the self in order to understand and to show compassion to the parts of self that stayed and tolerated the betrayal for way too long. You will need to rebuild the parts of your life that were wounded deeply. And lastly, restoration of your mind, emotions, and life goals will feel like you have let go and moved on.