You’re tired of being the strong black woman, who takes care of everyone but has no one who can truly care for you. You are afraid to be vulnerable, to lose control, and not be the strong person, because it’s your identity. It’s something you learned how to do, to survive sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, and/or abandonment by who should have loved and protected you. You’re a survivor, someone who has become successful in your career even though you carry around the pain and heaviness of your past. You used this strength and control to propel you forward.
And yet you still feel unhappy, like something is missing. You feel lonely and crave a relationship but yet the thought of being with someone else terrifies you. Feeling safe with someone else and trusting a partner seems like something that happens for other people. You just don’t know how to do it. To let your guard down and let someone in. Or maybe you have a partner and you cling to them. You are filled with anxiety as you wait for the day they leave you for someone else. You constantly question your partner and yourself. Despite your successful you don’t feel worthy or deserving of good things. You are always waiting for it all to come crashing down.
All of this makes you feel so alone, confused, and unhappy. You want things to change. You don’t want to continue living with all this pain and anxiety. You want to feel like you truly deserve good things and to love yourself, maybe for the first time.
Now you’re ready to get started but wonder how to fit therapy into your busy life. Worry no more! Therapy with me can be done online throughout the state of California or if you live abroad. You can also come to my office. To get started visit my website www.jessicalangtherapy.com to schedule your free, no-obligation 15 minute phone consultation. (A great option to avoid playing phone tag)