Relationships are important. They add an extra layer of joy and fulfillment to our lives; they bring opportunities for growth and they build us up. They can’t, however, fix whatever core wounds we bring with us to the relationship. Instead, we tend to replay dysfunctional relationship dynamics until we heal the root of the problem ourselves.
Each of us brings our own history, traumas, fears and points of view into our adult relationships. Our past experiences continue to drive our view of self, others, and the world. We carry forward unhelpful ways of communicating, behaving, and relating to others. Often times, we are unaware of how we communicate our needs because sometimes, we aren't even aware of our needs resulting in self-sabotaging thoughts/behaviors and in turn, contributes to our relationship dissatisfaction.
The biggest challenge, however, is your own resistance. You naturally want to protect yourself from pain, so you try to ignore the past and distract yourself from the inner negativity. If negative states linger in spite of your efforts, something else is required in order to heal.
My goal is to walk with you, not ahead of you on your journey to healing and self-discovery.